Self Help & Misc. Instresting Stuff.

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A Gujju's personalized number plate in the US.... :lol::lol::lol:

 

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So apt in today's day and time......

 

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Mistakes can be great, because they allow us to learn.... But only if we reflect on it and allow it to.....

 

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Pablo Neruda, Spanish poet and winner of Nobel Prize for Literature in 1971.


"You start dying slowly"


You start dying slowly
if you do not travel,
if you do not read,
If you do not listen to the sounds of life,
If you do not appreciate yourself.
You start dying slowly.

When you kill your self-esteem,
When you do not let others help you.
You start dying slowly

If you become a slave of your habits,
Walking everyday on the same paths
If you do not change your routine,
If you do not wear different colours
Or you do not speak to those you don’t know.
You start dying slowly

If you avoid to feel passion
And their turbulent emotions;
Those which make your eyes glisten
And your heart beat fast.
You start dying slowly

If you do not risk what is safe for the uncertain,
If you do not go after a dream,
If you do not allow yourself,
At least once in your lifetime,
To run away.....

You start dying Slowly !!!

 

[DSM]

Some weekend reads..... / Source : Whatsapp


Something to ponder.....

Want to succeed? Patience and Perseverance sometimes pays you over a long time, even if the results do not show immediately. It does not matter how slowly you go, so long as you do not give up and do not stop… The stone is broken by the last stroke. This does not mean that first stroke was useless. Success and happiness is the result of continuous effort….

Something to reflect upon!!

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Shocking but true....

Ranjan Das, CEO and MD of SAP-Indian subcontinent died after a massive cardiac arrest in Mumbai recently. One of the youngest CEOs at 42. Also, he was very active in sports, was a fitness freak and a marathon runner. One day, after his workout, he collapsed with a massive heart attack and died. He is survived by his wife and two very young kids. His untimely death is certainly a wake-up call for corporate India.

The question arises as to why an exceptionally active, athletic person succumbed to a heart attack at 42 years of age. What really killed Ranjan Das?

Everyone looking for answers, missed out a small line in the reports that Ranjan used to manage with 4-5 hours of sleep. In an earlier interview of Ranjan on NDTV in the program ‘Boss' day out’, Ranjan Das himself admitted that he sleeps less and would love to get more sleep. Short sleep duration (<5 or 5-6 hours) increases risk for high BP by 350% to 500% compared to those who slept longer than 6 hours per night.

Individuals who sleep less than 5 hours a night have a 3-fold increased risk of heart attacks. Just one night of sleep loss increases very toxins in the body such as Interleukin-6 (IL-6), Tumour necrosis factor-alpha (TNF-alpha) and C-reactive protein (CRP). They also cause cancer, arthritis and heart disease.

Sleeping for <=5 hours per night leads to 39% increase in heart disease. Sleeping for <=6 hours per night leads to 8% increase in heart disease.

Barring stress control, Ranjan Das did everything right: eating proper food, exercising, maintaining proper weight. But he missed getting proper and adequate sleep, minimum 7 hours. That killed him. We are playing games with our health and well being if we are sleeping less than 7 hours - even if we have low stress.

Do not set your alarm clock under 7 hours. Ranjan Das is not alone. Do Share this message with all the Good People In your life.

DR.N Siva, Senior Cardiologist

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Humor time.....

One day at school.....

Teacher : John, answer me. What do you want to be when you grow up?

John : Teacher, I wish to have my own business and become a multi millionaire. I want to set up offices in Dubai, London, Tokyo and New York, and my own sea facing big bungalow with a swimming pool, and a personal business jet. When I travel, I want to stay in only 5 star hotels, and have a group of assistants to do my work. I also want to own the costliest Lamborghini and a personal yatch. And for my wife, I want the best designer clothes from Paris and Milan and most expensive diamonds from London…..

Teacher : Good to have ambition in life John, but students, henceforth you should not give such lengthy answer. Please reply in a sentence only. Ok.? Now Sunita you tell me what do you want to be?

Sunita : I want to be John's wife :lol::lol::lol:

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A doctor and an engineer loved the same girl. The doctor used to give her a rose daily and engineer used to give the girl an apple. The girl got confused and asked engineer : There is a meaning of giving rose in Love. So why are you giving me an apple?

Engineer answered : Because "An apple a day keeps the doctor away" :lol::lol::lol:


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Have a great weekend folks....

 

[DSM]

A great quote : Happiness isn't getting all you want. It's enjoying all you have...


Mumbai is becoming more of a concrete jungle... and for those of us who live in the city, we tend to get out of touch being with nature... And so, for me, Sundays is a time for quite and relaxation for which I go to a near by park - that is now blessed with a carpet of green grass due to the rains..... Just being away from the hustle and bustle of daily life, sitting on swing (with cover on top) while it is raining around is a wonderful feeling.... Sharing some pics...

Feel truly blessed.... Thank you God!!!

 

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Ant and the Wealthy man


One morning, a wealthy man sat in his balcony enjoying sunshine and his coffee, when a little ant caught his eye which was going from one side to the other side of the balcony carrying a big leaf several times more than its size. The man watched it for more than an hour. He saw that the ant faced many impediments during its journey, paused, took a diversion and then continued towards its so destination.

At one point the tiny creature came across a crack in the floor. It paused for a little while, analyzed and then laid the huge leaf over the crack, walked over the leaf, picked the leaf on the other side then continued its journey.

The man was captivated by the cleverness of the ant, one of God’s tiniest creatures. The incident left the man in awe and forced him to contemplate over the miracle of Creation. It showed the greatness of the Creator. In front of his eyes there was this tiny creature of God, lacking in size yet equipped with a brain to analyze, contemplate, reason, explore, discover and overcome. Along with all these capabilities, the man also noticed that this tiny creature shared some human shortcomings.

The man saw about an hour later the creature had reached its destination – a tiny hole in the floor which was entrance to its underground dwelling. And it was at this point that the ant’s shortcoming that it shared with the man was revealed. How could the ant carry into the tiny hole the large leaf that it had managed to carefully bring to the destination? It simply couldn't!

So the tiny creature, after all the painstaking and hard work and exercising great skills, overcoming all the difficulties along the way, just left behind the large leaf and went home empty-handed.

The ant had not thought about the end before it began its challenging journey and in the end the large leaf was nothing more than a burden to it. The creature had no option, but to leave it behind to reach its destination. The man learned a great lesson that day.

Isn't that the truth about our lives?

We worry about our family, we worry about our job, we worry about how to earn more money, we worry about where we should live – 4 bedroom or 5 bedroom house, what kind of vehicle to buy, what kind of dresses to wear, all sorts of things, only to abandon all these things when we reach our destination – The Grave.

We don’t realize in our life’s journey that these are just burdens that we are carrying with utmost care and fear of losing them, only to find that at the end they are useless and we can’t take them with us.....

Something to reflect upon……

(And coincidentally, the post serves as apt reminder on the fragility and transient nature of life.... as had read this message in the morning, and then got news of a neighbor passing away sometime later....)

 

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Hope.... Or Not

(Hope is eternal... Gives a reason to strive... to not give in to despair.... But is hope, or the excess of it, bad? Or ill advised? For a doctor to give false hope to a dying patient, for a business close into bankruptcy, for a lover who has been deserted, and for a trader, who is deep into painful loss in a trade, hope may be the last thing thing that is needed.... Hope can be like an intoxicant, while making feel good, while denying the reality and the chance to assess the problem realistically and resolve it practically.....

Happened to write this as received a message from a friend, who is in such a situation, and eternally hopeful.... Looking only at one side (desired outcome) lessens the chance of taking sound decisions and hence this post)


Hope in reality is the worst of all evils because it prolongs the torments of man - Friedrich Nietzsche

https://whatashrinkthinks.com/2013/11/11/pernicious-hope/


Hope, misdirected, misplaced, can cement our attachments to people and places that are destructive to us. Hope can dangle, like bait, with a sharp hook embedded inside to keep us waiting for transformations that will never come. Hope gone haywire lurks at the root of all addictions – and we all know the “definition of insanity” is doing the same thing over and over and hoping for different results.

Hope can block out necessary grief, forestalling or arresting entirely, the sweet release of necessary loss and healthy mourning. Hope can deceive us, obscuring realities that we need to face. Hope can keep us waiting for Godot, who will never come. Hope to “get out of” is the root of all denial.

Pernicious hope lures the gambler to go “all in” on a long shot, and invites cowardice to search for means of magical escape. Hoping for divine intervention, waiting passively to be lifted out of circumstances that require our labor and our conscious intention, Hope can bind and paralyze us.

Hope can keep us places that we need to leave, and seduce us into leaving places where we should stay. Hope futurizes, pulling on us to abandon the present moment, and numbing us to it. Hope insinuates that we can get out of our distress – when our soul’s only salvation may be to go through it.

Where Hope is, fear lurks just below.

We dread the dark lessons, the painful transformations, the inevitable losses that life requires of us. We do not want to give up on the dirty well. Pernicious hope tempts us to return to it over and over in search of clean water.

Hope is grippy, sticky, grasping. It sneaks up quietly and carries a big hook: Hope can distract, divert, drain our energies away from dreaded but unavoidable responsibilities, stealing our focus, and our acceptance of the task at hand.

Every defense, every resistance, every form of self-sabotage contains, at the bottom of the box, Hope in some form. To surrender hope is an exhausting and terrifying process. Hope is a habit that is hard to extinguish, a fix we can’t stop for. It reasserts itself, stubborn, persistent, sneaky, a craving, a crutch.

The work of psychotherapy is often to chase down and sort through the flock of slippery and Pernicious Hopes in all their diverse and daemonic aspects. To capture one at a time, examine it, to challenge and question its true mission, to uncover exactly which god this particular Hope obeys.

To exorcise it.

And the therapist’s hopes can have as much destructive power as the client’s. To hope too much on behalf of a client is a rejection of where they actually are. To hope to cure a client is inflated and grandiose as that prerogative is theirs alone. To hope to rescue someone from their circumstance is avoidant and can instill more fear in the client toward what may lie ahead, implying that it cannot be faced. Therapists may also hope to escape the painful or frightening aspects of a client’s journey and wrestle with the tempting hope, that the dark cup will taken from them both.

Surrender All Hope Ye Who Enter Here.

And much maligned Hopelessness, always given short shrift, can bring sweet relief. Giving up, surrender, admitting defeat, hitting bottom, allows us to lay on the damp earth, face down, grounded, maybe bloodied, but on the earth, and of the earth for good, for ill.

We can breathe again when Hope releases us from its clutches. When there is nothing left to lose, we are no longer afraid. We can rest, heal up, and when we have gathered our energies, face what is real squarely and without letting Hope deceive us. Without Hopelessness we cannot embrace our fate or face our destiny.

The great gift of angelic Hopelessness is Acceptance.

To write without hope is the very best way to write.

Dante passed through the Gates of Hell, and descended through its terrible rings before he was permitted to rise up through Purgatory to glimpse Paradise.

True, angelic Hope lives on the other side of Hopelessness. It does not protect us from hopelessness or help us avoid it. It is the gift we are sometimes given when we have withstood hopelessness past the point of what we thought we could endure. It is often hidden, buried, or dwelling just past the horizon line of our limited perceptions. Sometimes it is just the sound of water, the smallest trickle, in the far distance. It is hard to hear, impossible to see, and rarely obvious.

Angelic Hope descends as an unexpected visitor, as a moment of grace as something we can never expect, demand, and will turn destructive if we cling to it too tightly.

 

[DSM]

Applied thinking.....

Source : Quora



During world war II, Allied bombers were key to strategic attacks, but the problem they faced was that they were constantly shot down by the Germans, due to which the Allies lost a lot of planes. It was common logic that the fighter planes needed more armor, but armor is heavy and expensive, so extra plating on the planes could only be fixed in limited places where the planes were being shot the most.


Abraham Wald, a Jewish mathematician who’d been locked out of university positions in Hungary, was brought in to look into the problem. He had a simple solution. He drew bullet holes on paper corresponding to where each place where the returning bombers had been shot. The analysis yielded the conclusion that the wings, nose, and tail were the most likely places to be shot at, as it was shown in the planes that were blackened with bullet holes. The fighter airplane engineers thought that these were the spots that needed more armor.


What do you think? Were you the engineer, would you agree that the places where the aircraft shot most needed more armor? Think about your choice of answer…..







Laterally thinking this is the solution :





If you agreed with the engineers, you are the victim of thinking called survivor bias.The mathematician argued that they needed to reinforce the spots that didn’t have bullet holes because the planes that had been shot in these bullet-free zones never made it home......

Survivor bias : Is the logical error of concentrating on the people or things that "survived" some process and overlooking those that did not because of their lack of visibility.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survivorship_bias

Note : Guess we as traders are prone to have this survivor bias when we get carried away by charts posted with 'AFL's that hit the 'target'.... The charts were the AFL missed, would have low chances of being posted....

 

[DSM]

Posting some notes from my collection :

Remember: the biggest challenge is NOT the markets. It's what goes on inside your own head!

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Ordinary people believe only in the possible. Extraordinary people visualize not what is possible or probable, but rather what is impossible. And by visualizing the impossible, they begin to see it as possible. — Cherie Carter-Scott

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Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don’t. And believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance – take it. If it changes your life – let it. Nobody said that it would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it – Harvey Mackay

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Difference between a Guru and a Teacher - Adapted from Avalok


A teacher takes responsibility for your growth, a Guru makes you responsible for your growth.

A teacher gives you things you do not have and require, a Guru takes away things you have and do not require.

A teacher answers your questions, a Guru questions your answers.

A teacher helps you get out of the maze, a Guru destroys the maze.

A teacher requires obedience and discipline from the pupil, a Guru requires trust and humility from the pupil.

A teacher clothes you and prepares you for the outer journey, a Guru strips you naked and prepares you for the inner journey.

A teacher is a guide on the path, a Guru is a pointer to the way.

A teacher sends you on the road to success, a Guru sends you on the road to freedom.

A teacher explains the world and its nature to you, a Guru explains yourself and your nature to you.

A teacher gives you knowledge that will boosts your ego, a Guru takes away your knowledge and punctures your ego.

A teacher sharpens your mind, a Guru opens your mind.

A teacher reaches your mind, a Guru touches your spirit.

A teacher gives you knowledge, a Guru makes you wise.

A teacher instructs you on how to solve problems, a Guru shows you how to resolve issues.

One can always find a teacher, but a Guru has to find and accept you.