A Strong Trading Mind
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Over the years, I have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions.
The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." ... [My dark side says,] I am no good... I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the "Beloved." Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.
—Henri J.M. Nouwen
The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." ... [My dark side says,] I am no good... I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the "Beloved." Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.
—Henri J.M. Nouwen
Every life has its ups and downs. Learn to be present to the seasons in your own life. If you are ill ~ remember that you are more than a physical body. Know that what can’t be cured, can often be healed. If you are sad, take charge of your mind and focus on things that make you smile and laugh again. If you feel lonely, tap into your imagination to use your time to serve or learn something new. There are times in life when you will have more questions than answers. Even in the darkness of this time, know that you are not alone. Be still and listen to your heart, which will allow you to access a deep strength and genuine joy for life.
Allow yourself to hear your own still small voice; to believe in your truth; to find a place within of safety and peace; and to understand the depth and truth of your own feelings. Life is meant to be lived~ not endured or existing feeling totally stressed out. You have the power to create a life in which you are respected for who you are ~ valued, cherished and celebrated! Life is too short to allow other people to steal your joy. You have something special. You have GREATNESS within you!
—Les Brown
Allow yourself to hear your own still small voice; to believe in your truth; to find a place within of safety and peace; and to understand the depth and truth of your own feelings. Life is meant to be lived~ not endured or existing feeling totally stressed out. You have the power to create a life in which you are respected for who you are ~ valued, cherished and celebrated! Life is too short to allow other people to steal your joy. You have something special. You have GREATNESS within you!
—Les Brown
How to best manage negative people and relationships:
http://powerofpositivity.com/positive-people-still-attract-negative-people/
1. Consider carefully how much of yourself you give to those who only withdraw.
2. Give negative individuals less power over your emotions, time and happiness.
3. You are not responsible for another person’s happiness, value or good mood.
4. Don’t take the hurtful actions as a personal reflection.
5. Remember…it is impossible to win an argument with someone who is “never wrong” or blindly self-focused.
6. Difficult, needy, angry, overly sensitive people are that way —not because of something you’ve done or not done—- but often because of early childhood experiences.
7. Have empathy and compassion but not at the risk of sacrificing yourself.
8. Don’t take it personal. It’s really not about you. And sometimes there’s nothing you can fix….but we can chose our friends.
Hurt people hurt people.
When the negative person is a family remember that you have choice in the way you respond—- respond in love. Stop being angry, end your resentment. Put love in your heart. We can’t change people… But we can pray for them.
When dealing with unhappy family members, know your part, but set healthy boundaries.
Be supportive without taking responsibility for the self-worth of another. Create a healthier relationship. And if you want this person in your life, (or if you really don’t have a choice via marriage or bloodline ) then make a decision to do your best without sacrificing your soul.
Ask questions. Listen.
And listening doesn’t mean letting the other person talk, so that they will hurry up and finish so you can say what you need to say. Listening is understanding; trying to see things from their life perspective. Having an understanding of what it is like to walk in their shoes and what experiences have led them to this way of thinking. Take the word confrontation out of your vocabulary. Decide to be more loving.
And lastly, I believe that no relationship is 50/50.
Every relationship has a humble hero. It’s okay to be that person from time to time who does more and takes pride in their role. Be the person who’s willing to make the other person feel like the center of the universe. Instead of keeping score or building resentment, just hold that pride inside of you.
Know without having to broadcast it or write your award acceptance speech that this is ***your gift*** This is what draws other people to you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself or wondering when someone else is going to do the same for you. Respond in love or make a decision to make a change.
There are exceptions to every rule – but the thing I know for sure and it sounds “total cheeseburger” but love is almost always the right answer.
http://powerofpositivity.com/positive-people-still-attract-negative-people/
1. Consider carefully how much of yourself you give to those who only withdraw.
2. Give negative individuals less power over your emotions, time and happiness.
3. You are not responsible for another person’s happiness, value or good mood.
4. Don’t take the hurtful actions as a personal reflection.
5. Remember…it is impossible to win an argument with someone who is “never wrong” or blindly self-focused.
6. Difficult, needy, angry, overly sensitive people are that way —not because of something you’ve done or not done—- but often because of early childhood experiences.
7. Have empathy and compassion but not at the risk of sacrificing yourself.
8. Don’t take it personal. It’s really not about you. And sometimes there’s nothing you can fix….but we can chose our friends.
Hurt people hurt people.
When the negative person is a family remember that you have choice in the way you respond—- respond in love. Stop being angry, end your resentment. Put love in your heart. We can’t change people… But we can pray for them.
When dealing with unhappy family members, know your part, but set healthy boundaries.
Be supportive without taking responsibility for the self-worth of another. Create a healthier relationship. And if you want this person in your life, (or if you really don’t have a choice via marriage or bloodline ) then make a decision to do your best without sacrificing your soul.
Ask questions. Listen.
And listening doesn’t mean letting the other person talk, so that they will hurry up and finish so you can say what you need to say. Listening is understanding; trying to see things from their life perspective. Having an understanding of what it is like to walk in their shoes and what experiences have led them to this way of thinking. Take the word confrontation out of your vocabulary. Decide to be more loving.
And lastly, I believe that no relationship is 50/50.
Every relationship has a humble hero. It’s okay to be that person from time to time who does more and takes pride in their role. Be the person who’s willing to make the other person feel like the center of the universe. Instead of keeping score or building resentment, just hold that pride inside of you.
Know without having to broadcast it or write your award acceptance speech that this is ***your gift*** This is what draws other people to you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself or wondering when someone else is going to do the same for you. Respond in love or make a decision to make a change.
There are exceptions to every rule – but the thing I know for sure and it sounds “total cheeseburger” but love is almost always the right answer.
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